A Ripley County woman with several children stayed at the Safe Passage shelter in Batesville for two weeks in 2012 and still leans on the nonprofit for support.
Executive director Jane Yorn reports, “She has utilized a broad scope of our services.”
To help others understand what domestic violence is, she wrote down her story, which is excerpted in this article.
“My husband and I both came from well-respected families in both community and church,” she recalled. In their mid-20s when they met in Utah, they dated for four months, then married, bought a house and “got pregnant within the first month of marriage. He wanted to support the family and have me be a stay-at-home mom. I was thrilled with the way life was going. We were the perfect little family, living the American dream.”
“I should have been the happiest woman around. But I wasn’t. My husband was a very passionate man, feeling very strongly about every subject matter, whether it was something from the news or something going on in our house. It only took a matter of seconds for a normal conversation to turn into him yelling and me cowering.
“He said he wasn’t yelling at me, he was just yelling. He wasn’t angry at me, he was just angry. He had to have a way to vent his frustrations and I was his wife so he should be able to use me for his venting. He never hit me, but he did throw things when he got frustrated. He didn’t throw them at me, he just threw them.”
The family moved to Indiana and stayed for several months with relatives while finding their own house. “One night after everyone was in bed we had a typical evening talk ... He yelled, I cried. It was routine for us and our three children slept right through it.” But her sister, who overheard the conversation, was “horrified,” the woman wrote.