Batesville Herald Tribune, Batesville, Indiana

April 8, 2014

Women celebrate friendships at community luncheon

Diane Raver The Herald-Tribune
The Batesville Herald-Tribune

---- — Dr. Suzanne Metzger entertained 162 during the 11th annual Ripley County Community Foundation Women in Philanthropy Fundraising Luncheon April 3 at Hillcrest Country Club.

In “The Ordinary Miracle of Friendship,” the speaker said, “True friends have true insight into our lives.”

They are “good at giving us directions, help us cope and help us age gracefully most of the time.

“Friends help us have fun .... They need to help us create pasts that are juicy enough to share with our grandchildren,” she stressed.

“Friends help us understand the stages of our lives and help us set our priorities. They help us understand change, and they see our potential.”

Metzger told a story about a woman who had four daughters. She wanted them to see the stages of life. Each season, she took one of them to look at a tree. In winter, one of the daughters described it as “ugly, twisted and bent.” In spring, another daughter said it was “coming to life and sweet.” By summer, “it was laden with blossoms and beautiful,” and in the fall, “it was heavy with fruit and ripe with promise.

“The thing our true friends understand is that our lives are not judged with the living of one season, but over many seasons.”

She added, “Friends don’t have to be the same gender, age or heritage. We have friends from all walks of life .... We have to age, but we don’t have to rot. It’s our friends that keep us from rotting.

“There’s nothing like a good friend, except a good friend with chocolate!” she pointed out.

“Friends save recipes, photographs and cherished moments. They see the stars, the light and right through us. They are an extra pair of hands, an extra set of eyes and an extra shoulder to lean on. They help us find the right outfits, the right man and the right words. They keep us from losing our car keys, our faith and our minds. They cry over milestones, millstones and headstones. They warm leftovers, mittens and our heart. They are there for us.

“It takes a minute to meet one, an hour to appreciate one, a day to love them and a lifetime to forget them,” she announced.

Diane Raver can be contacted at or 812-934-4343, Ext. 114.

Linda S. Phaneuf Women's Fund Grant • Attendees had a chance to choose one of three nonprofit projects to receive a $1,000 grant. They chose New Horizons Rehabilitation's To Just Feel Pretty for a Day. It will allow women with intellectual and developmental disabilities to have a monthly session with a beautician, which focuses on hair, nails and skin to not only make them feel pretty but to develop habits in self-care. The other nominees were Arts for Learning, the Indiana Affiliate of Young Audiences, which supports the continuation of arts education programs for St. Louis School children, and Margaret Mary Health's Turning up Turnips, which teaches the importance of eating fresh, local, healthy food.